Sex during pregnancy is a topic often surrounded by myths, misconceptions, and concerns. Many couples wonder about the safety of having sex while expecting a baby. The good news is that, in most cases, sex during pregnancy is completely safe and can even have positive effects on both the expectant mother and her baby.
Safety
- Protection for the Baby: The baby inside the womb is well-protected by the amniotic fluid and the strong muscles of the uterus. These natural barriers safeguard the baby from any harm during sexual activity.
- No Risk of Penetration: During vaginal sex, it's essential to note that the partner cannot penetrate past the cervix, ensuring the safety of the baby.
- No Increased Risk of Miscarriage: Engaging in sexual activity, including orgasms, does not increase the risk of miscarriage or loss of pregnancy in a healthy pregnancy.
- No Increased Risk of Premature Labour: Unless there are specific complications, sexual activity does not make a pregnant woman more likely to go into premature labour. However, it may trigger mild contractions known as Braxton Hicks contractions, which are harmless and prepare the body for labour.
6 Safe sex positions
1) First Trimester
During the early stages of pregnancy, when morning sickness and fatigue may be common, most sex positions are safe to try. Some safe options include:
- Scissor position
- Missionary position
2) Second Trimester
The second trimester is often a time of increased libido. While most positions are still safe, it's essential to avoid lying on your back as it can compromise blood flow to the placenta. Safe positions for this stage include:
- Doggy style
- Cowgirl position
- Spider position
3) Third Trimester
As your belly grows in the third trimester, it's crucial to choose positions that minimize pressure on your belly and back. Some suitable positions include:
- Spooning
- Reverse cowgirl
- Rear-entry positions with support, like facing a wall or table
Unsafe sex positions
Here are six sex positions that are generally considered less safe during pregnancy and why:
1) Missionary position
The missionary position involves the pregnant person lying on their back with their partner on top. This position can be less comfortable as the pregnancy progresses because it puts pressure on the pregnant person's abdomen, potentially leading to discomfort or difficulty breathing. It's especially less safe in the later stages of pregnancy when the weight of the uterus and baby can compress major blood vessels, potentially reducing blood flow to the uterus.
2) Doggy style
This position involves the pregnant person on their hands and knees with their partner behind them. While it's generally safer than the missionary position, it may still be uncomfortable for some pregnant individuals, particularly in the later stages of pregnancy. Additionally, if there's a risk of preterm labour or certain complications, some healthcare providers may advise against this position to reduce the potential for uterine contractions.
3) Cowgirl or Reverse Cowgirl
These positions involve the pregnant person straddling their partner. While they can be enjoyable, they may put strain on the abdominal muscles and back, potentially leading to discomfort or pain, especially as the pregnancy progresses.
4) Standing or bent over
Positions that require the pregnant person to stand or bend over may increase the risk of dizziness or falling, which could be dangerous during pregnancy, particularly if there's a risk of falls or balance issues.
5) Deep penetration
Positions that allow for deep penetration, such as variations of the "lotus" or "closed scissors," may be uncomfortable or cause pain as the uterus enlarges during pregnancy. Additionally, deep penetration can increase the risk of accidentally hitting the cervix, which can be sensitive during pregnancy.
6) Sitting or squatting positions
Similar to standing positions, sitting or squatting positions may increase the risk of dizziness or falling, which is not advisable during pregnancy.
Some tips
- Oral sex is generally safe during pregnancy. However, avoid blowing air into the vagina during oral sex, as it can cause an air embolism, which is rare but potentially serious.
- Every pregnancy is unique, and your desire for sex may fluctuate throughout. Communicate openly with your partner about what feels comfortable and enjoyable for both of you. Physical closeness through cuddling, kissing, and caressing can be alternatives when sex is not an option.
- If you have concerns about sex during pregnancy or specific medical conditions, consult your healthcare provider. They can offer guidance tailored to your situation.
- After giving birth, it's essential to allow time for your body to heal and recover before resuming sexual activity. Be patient with yourself and prioritise your postpartum well-being.
Sex during pregnancy is generally safe and can even have several benefits for both the expectant mother and her partner. Understanding the safety aspects and choosing comfortable positions is key to enjoying a healthy sex life during pregnancy. Remember to communicate openly with your partner and consult your healthcare provider if you have any concerns or questions.
